Wedding planning is a job unto itself, and amidst the middle of venue visits, dress fittings, and cake tastings, it’s simple to underestimate how much time invitations actually take.
But here’s the thing: your wedding invitations aren’t simply pieces of paper with a date on them. They’re your first actual impression, your guests’ map of your celebration, and a little but crucial part of your wedding puzzle.
So, when should you begin thinking about them? The short answer is: much sooner than you might guess.
Let’s run through the timeline and, more importantly, why keeping to it makes your life easier.
Why Invitation Timing Matters More Than You Think
When you consider wedding invitations, you’re likely picturing a stunningly printed suite delivered to your mailbox. But behind the finished product is the process. It begins with locking down your guest list, picking a design, back and forth over proofs, waiting for printing and mailing, and then, most importantly, addressing and sending everything.
That whole process doesn’t take place overnight. Even with semi-custom designs or online templates, you’ll want to leave yourself some buffer. Things are running late, changes are made, people make changes (including yourself), and before you know it, you’re fighting against your RSVP deadline with no invitations in the works.
If you’re going for a cruise rather than a finish-line dash, you should order about 4 to 6 months prior to the wedding.
That provides you with sufficient time to select the proper style, double-check the wording, have it all printed, and begin constructing and addressing your invitations without anxiety.
What If You’re Having a Destination Wedding?
Destination weddings also follow their own timeline. Since guests require more advance notice to book flights, reserve accommodations, and possibly obtain passports, your entire mailing schedule is pushed forward.
Then, it’s wise to order your wedding invitations online at least 6 to 8 months ahead of time and plan to send them out no less than 3 months before your wedding. It’s not merely about giving guests more notice; it’s about giving yourself peace of mind.
And if you’re ordering your invitation cards online from a designer or stationer to produce something bespoke or luxurious, you’ll require even longer lead time. Hand-calligraphy, letterpress, foil embellishments, or velvet finish can take weeks longer to create than regular print choices.
So, When Do You Mail the Invitations?
After you’ve ordered your invitations, proofread them for typos (yes, again), and address them with envelopes and stamps. You can mail them.
The ideal time to mail out wedding invitations is 6 to 8 weeks prior to the wedding.
This gives guests sufficient notice to RSVP, make travel arrangements, and mark their calendars. If you want to avoid guests forgetting, you can follow up nearer the RSVP deadline, but making it too brief may result in late returns or regrets at the last minute.
Again, you’ll want to mail invitations at least 3 months out for destination weddings or events involving significant travel. The same goes for long weekends or weddings near holidays, when accommodations get booked quickly.
What About Save-the-Dates?
Save-the-dates aren’t mandatory, but they’re incredibly helpful, especially if your wedding falls during peak season, includes a large guest list, or takes place somewhere guests need to travel to.
It’s best to send save-the-dates 6 to 12 months before the wedding, depending on how early you want to secure your guests. They’re easy, they put everyone on notice, and they give you more time to put the finishing touches on formal invitations.
How Late Is Too Late to Order Invitations?
If you’re reading this and realizing your timeline’s already tight, don’t panic. There are fast-turnaround options out there, especially if you’re going with digital designs or templates. But keep in mind: the more customized your invitations, the longer the process.
Anything short of 3 months to the wedding gets you into the danger zone. You’ll probably have to pay rush charges, settle for your design, or accept a printing option you hadn’t anticipated. That may not be the worst thing in the world, but it’s certainly not perfect when you’re putting time and effort into a thoughtful celebration.
The best policy is to begin early, even if it feels like getting ahead of yourself. You’ll thank yourself later.
A Few Practical Tips Before You Hit “Order”
You already know when to order your wedding invitation card by now. But let’s complete this with some practical tips that people tend to forget.
Before settling on your final design and number, here are some considerate reminders that can save you stress, time, and surprise expenses later on:
Double-Check Your Guest List (Then Check It Again)
It sounds obvious, but small mistakes can slip through easily—misspelled names, outdated addresses, or forgetting to include a plus-one. Have someone else look over the list if you’ve been staring at it too long.
Always Order Extras
Ordering precisely 100 invites for 100 homes is risky. Envelopes can become smudged, invitations can be lost in the mail, or someone’s mother decides she needs one for a scrapbook. Always pad at least 10–15 extras, just in case.
Consider Addressing Time
Whether you hand-address or hire a calligrapher, addressing envelopes is time-consuming, more than most people expect. If you’re printing labels, add time to format and proofread them.
Don’t Forget Postage
Strange but true—some invitation sets are heavier or peculiarly shaped and might need additional postage. Bring a complete invitation set to the post office for a precise estimate before purchasing your stamps in bulk.
Account for Assembly
If your invitations include multiple cards, belly bands, wax seals, or ribbon ties, factor in the time it will take to assemble them. Even a simple suite can take hours to put together if you do it by hand.
Get a Sample First
Before ordering in bulk, ask for a printed sample of your final product. Seeing the colors, paper quality, and finish in person can prevent disappointment later. This is particularly crucial if you’re using special textures such as velvet or foil.
Be Aware of Holidays and Busy Periods
Printers and post offices usually experience a surge during the holidays or the wedding season. If your schedule coincides with theirs, include a buffer period of at least a week or two for production and distribution.
Maintain a Digital Copy
Save a PDF or electronic copy of your invitation suite. This will come in handy if you have to resend information by email or text to a lost guest’s invitation or add it to your wedding site.
Handle RSVP Deadlines with Care
Ensure your RSVP deadline provides adequate time to confirm vendor headcounts. Including a line such as “Please respond by [date]” in simple, friendly language can greatly improve the speed of response.
Don’t Overthink Every Little Thing
It’s simple to get bogged down in decision fatigue about fonts, ink colors, and envelope liners. If you’re agonizing for hours over ivory versus eggshell, take a step back and ask yourself what most concerns you. It’s likely that your guests care most about attending and partying with you, rather than focusing on whether your invitation boasted gold foil or matte typography.
Final Thoughts: Timing Is a Form of Self-Care
Here’s the thing—wedding planning can be overwhelming. But one of those little victories is having your invitation timeline under control.
Ordering ahead of time provides more time to make deliberate choices. It provides less frantic trips to the printer. It also gives guests more information and excitement because they do not receive details at the last minute.
If there is one area of wedding planning you can get a head start on, it’s this. And once that is out of the way, you can devote your energy to the areas that truly matter: the people, the party, and the vows you’re promising.